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It was not the mobility problems that ensued after the fall, or the problems with dressing or even the delicate dressing and bathroom arrangements that caused the most anguish....it was her hearing. Before the fall she had been very deaf and stubbornly refusing to have any investigations with a view to seeing if there was anything that could be done. This meant that specialist services for deaf people were also not part of the picture too. She had once been told as a girl not to let anyone touch her ear ...yah ..yah and she just turned up the TV a bit louder very week.
But after the fall she went completely deaf. Not even yelling one inch from her ear would get through. We have resorted to writing everything down. The bonus is that we all know what has been said and she can keep messages with times and dates on them. This message was to tell her that just outside her door two men in full Scottish dress were playing bagpipes - and was it loud. [actually it was excruciating..an acquired taste are bag pipes!] She had no idea. It was then we realised the extent of the problem and when we moved into full message mode. She is just about to start on an investigation 2013 style so let us hope she can get some of it back as she is getting mighty weary of subtitled TV..even if the neighbours are having a quieter time!
Good luck.
ReplyDeleteMy mother-in-law stubbornly refuses to use hearing aids too. She doesn't like a lot of noise and has sensitive ears, she's 97 yrs old and is in a care home. We speak close to her ear, too and she can hear sometimes. We also use touch since she cannot see well either (holding her hand, rubbing her back, hugs). She still has such a lovely attitude.
Forgot to add, Susan, that I love bagpipes. I have Scottish roots in my background. (you either love them or hate them).
DeleteThanks for that - we are hoping that things will improve. Touch is such a valuable sense but not everyone is comfortable with it if their culture isn't particularly tactile. That is another frustration!
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